IngaParticipant1 day, 20 hours ago
I refused to wear a dress as a kid and I don’t remember other kids dressing up for the first day other than they usually had a new outfit to wear. Picture day seemed to be the one dress up day I remember. I always hoped for a cool weather first day so I could break in my new jeans and other new fall clothes. In some ways I think starting the school year earlier and earlier is messing a bit with wearing the new crisp clothes to school. It’s too hot for the new fall clothes and I’m not going to buy new summer clothes in August unless Ethan has completely worn out or outgrown the stuff he’s been wearing all summer (which has never happened yet). I typically dress Ethan fairly nicely for school anyway (lots of khaki style shorts and polo shirts) so the first day wasn’t any different. A lot of the girls at his school wear dresses everyday, but we weren’t there the first day to see if they were dressed any fancier than usual.
IngaParticipant1 day, 21 hours ago
Nope, you aren’t being unreasonable at all. I wouldn’t buy a new one either. If there’s no consequence, she probably won’t care enough to not do it again.
IngaParticipant2 days, 23 hours ago
Ethan can be painfully slow in the morning, too. What helps me with him is to plan free time into our morning for cartoons, play, etc. I’ll allow 30 minutes of cartoons (usually Curious George) when he first gets up, then I turn off the TV and get on with getting ready for school. If he’s quick enough, he can play for a short while after he gets ready, before we head out the door (and sometimes he chooses to have playtime instead of TV time). I’m not a morning person either, but I’ve found that getting us both up that extra 30 minutes earlier avoids major morning headaches. Obviously, everyone is different, but Ethan is definitely the type to need some time for himself before being forced into the day’s activities.
IngaParticipant4 days, 12 hours ago
I love those Skinny Cow mint ice cream sandwiches! Yum.
Today, I was (once again) thankful to have such a good kid who lets me take a nap when I need it. I’ve always been a nap person, but I am now getting to the end of my pregnancy and needing a lot more naps than usual. My husband likes to label them … Nap A is while Ethan is at school, Nap B is in the afternoon, and on weekends I sometimes manage a Nap C. Ethan is so good and will just watch a movie or TV or play with his toys while I snooze.
I’m also very thankful that Ethan enjoyed his day at school today! After the first two awesome days, he’s been not at all happy about the new school with it’s new rules and new kids. Today, he managed to play with some more kids and had a good time
IngaParticipant4 days, 12 hours ago
I did the balloon thing with Ethan this year and he loved it! I also decorated the downstairs with more balloons and streamers, so when he woke up on his birthday everything would be all festive If you have time, you could also make them a special breakfast and/or have a small gift waiting for them when they woke up (book, b-day card w/ stickers, t-shirt, etc.).
IngaParticipant6 days, 13 hours ago
I haven’t worked for the past 2 years. It has felt strange at times, but generally I like the freedom. My biggest issue with not working is the stress of not contributing financially to the family, especially when money is tight.
IngaParticipant6 days, 17 hours ago
It’s good so far, thanks
Tonight, we had turkey-carrot burgers (per Ethan’s request), corn on the cob and broccoli. It was the first home-cooked meal at our new place. After many many meals of drive-throughs and take-out, the “real” food was much appreciated by all!
I’m very thankful that …
… the move is over with and I have most of the boxes unpacked
… my new OBGYN seems very nice and knowledgable
… I’ll get to meet my baby girl in just a couple of months
… the new apartment washer and dryer are stacked and so much easier for me to use than the ones at our old house (no bending!)
… so far our neighbors have been very quiet!
Congrats on the first interview and good luck with the second!
You could put just about any kind of fruit in a small leak proof container, like grapes, chopped melon, orange wedges, berries, pineapple chunks, applesauce or pearsauce, raisins or other dried fruit, etc. Carrots (or other veggies) with hummus or other dip is always tasty. Some other ideas: coleslaw or cucumbers w/ sweet oil and vinegar dressing, steamed sugar snap peas in pods, celery w/ sunbutter (or other school allowed nut-butter or alternative), small thermos of soup.
Ethan’s school officially started Monday, but he missed the first two days due to the move, so Wednesday (Aug 20) was his first day. He loved the first two days, but on Friday he was annoyed because they had to stay inside due to the rain and the teachers told him “no battles” inside. He apparently doesn’t like that rule and was suddenly telling me he didn’t like school after two days of saying how great it was. Hopefully, Monday will have nice weather again and an attitude change for the kid.
I have a fear of floods, especially flash flooding. I used to have panic attacks when it rained. I’m also scared of being trapped in confined spaces with lots of other people. Planes trigger panic attacks for that reason and I would never ever go on a cruise. I also have a fear of vomiting, whether it be myself or other people. I’d consider all those fear to be irrational, at least to the level I have the fear.
IngaParticipant1 week, 5 days ago
No, we use the same backpack, lunchbox, etc. for several years. It seems really expensive and wasteful to keep replacing them if they don’t need it! As a kid, I got a new one every few years or so, but not every school year. Ethan is on his third year with his current “Skip Hop” froggy backpack and lunch bag. They both still look brand new. Next year, he’ll probably get a new big boy back pack and lunch bag since he’ll be 6 and in kindergarten. We’ll save the little kid stuff for his sister to use if it’s still in good condition. We have another backpack that has gone everywhere with Ethan since he got his epi-pens as a baby. It served as a medical bag and diaper bag. It’s a Pottery Barn one that has held up very well considering the constant use for almost 5 years and the fact that it’s always being tossed around or squished into the bottom of strollers and such. However, now that the fabric has been fading due to years of sun exposure, we might invest in another high quality pack that can serve both to carry Ethan’s meds and Claire’s baby stuff. I also have the same plastic lunch boxes (laptop lunch boxes) that I was using years ago. The oldest one is 10 (I used them to bring my lunch to work everyday) and we still use them regularly to bring Ethan’s meals if we’ll be out of the house. Since they are in great condition I see no need to buy more!
IngaParticipant2 weeks ago
I need to start doing this again, too. One book I read a few years ago had a lot of interesting ideas for planning and saving money. It was called Cut Your Grocery Bills in Half with America’s Cheapest Family by Steve and Annette Economides. I’m not really in to a lot of the things they do, but one of her big things is meal planning, so I think they have a whole section of the book just about that. She goes through brainstorming, calendars, etc.
Ethan is still in his convertible car seat. It goes up to at least 50lbs and is safer than a booster so we’re going to keep him in it as long as possible. He’s also not big enough for a booster yet. I’m not sure what the height requirement is, but he doesn’t meet the weight requirement of 40lbs (he’s been stuck at 35 for awhile). We’ll probably switch to a convertible booster w/ 5 point harness and back when his little sister outgrows her infant seat and needs his current seat (if it hasn’t expired), but he’d be at least 6 by then.
TwoSapphires, it is a post about being grateful after all If you would have asked me a year ago what I really really wanted, having another child and my husband getting a new job would have been at the very top of the list! I didn’t realize so many other things would change in the process, but we’ve obviously had some good luck with those two wishes this year.
Embra, the college definitely adds some culture to the town. I had also been thinking it would probably be pretty easy to find a mother’s helper in my apartment complex, if I wanted one. My main concern is the noise! I’m hoping my upstairs neighbors will be fairly well-behaved.
Gaamy, I think we’ll be fine with the smaller space. Our current place is a 2 bedroom 1350sf house, so we aren’t talking about a huge space change. I like to keep things simple anyway. The big change is that we won’t have a basement, garage and yard, plus we’re going from a small number of larger rooms to a larger number of very small rooms. My husband will be thrilled not having to mow the lawn for a year, though, and we’ll both be happy that we won’t be the ones responsible for upkeep of the building. Our old 1930s house is a lot of work and money to take care of. The apartment is also super close to Ethan’s school and Alex’s work and I could walk to the grocery store if I wanted. Bonus!
I think the current price of babysitters is insane, especially since most aren’t paying any taxes on that income (unlike min wage workers), but it sounds like you have found some good sitters for a reasonable rate. It’s one thing to hire a professional nanny who I’d expect to be an adult with a lot of training/expertise and who had chosen this as a career to support themselves, but I don’t expect to pay a teen who’s just going to be playing with my child or watching TV nearly as much. When I was looking for sitters for Ethan a year or two ago, I found most of them actually wanted more than I would earn at my job that I needed a babysitter for! I did find a teenager who would take $10 for an hour and a half, but most people wanted double that.
I babysat pretty much every weekend plus summers starting at age 12. This was 20-25 years ago, but my rate was $2 an hour for one child and $1 an hour per child for more than one. Some people would give me more and I would take less for families that had me babysit frequently. Even with those rates, I could earn $70 in a weekend which was a ton for someone who didn’t need to pay for things like rent, food or utilities. When I worked at an actual daycare center at age 19, the pay was $5 an hour and I was in charge of 4 toddlers plus cleaning the room.
IngaParticipant2 weeks, 5 days ago
I love reading about people who are grateful for all these wonderful things we so often take for granted. It was also a good reminder for me right now. Moving from our beautiful old house in a great quiet neighborhood to a less than perfect apartment where there will be lots of college students (and getting rid of a lot of stuff in the process) hasn’t been the most happy process for me. However, my husband LOVES his new job up there and it will be so awesome for us all to be together again in time to welcome our newest family member. Despite all the challenges of moving, we’ll still have amazing things like safe shelter w/ both heat and AC, clean water, electricity, medical care, food and a good school to send my son to.