When you're choosing a name … (poll)
TwoSapphiresParticipant1 month, 2 weeks ago
how important do you consider the following? Unimportant, slightly important, or very important?
* ethnic/cultural origin
* flow with last name
* how it “goes with” sibling/parents’ names
* ease of spelling/pronunciation
TwoSapphiresParticipant1 month, 2 weeks ago
* meaning: very important
* ethnic/cultural origin: unimportant
* initials: very important. I used to work someplace where the practitioners’ initials were put on the schedule, their bills, their files, etc., and I personally would have hated to have “PIG” or “STD” or something on all my stuff in a professional setting.
* flow with last name: very important
* how it “goes with” sibling/parents’ names: slightly important
* uniqueness: slightly important. I would prefer uncommon names but had to overlook that to find anything DH and I could agree on.
* ease of spelling/pronunciation: very important. People have trouble with both with our LN so I think it’s nice if the FN is more straightforward.
embraParticipant1 month, 2 weeks ago
1. Flows with last name. I’d put ethnic origin here too because I’d only care about the ethnic origin if it resulted in a name that clashed with the last name. Otherwise I have no preference for ethnic origin.
2. Teasing potential for both the name itself and initials was a big exclusion factor for me.
3. Ease of pronounciation/spelling
4. Uniqueness. I prefer less common names that don’t sound made up.
5. Meaning – bonus points for a good meaning or personal connection and I might exclude a name that had an awful meaning but if the meaning was just ok, I wouldn’t care.
6. How well it goes with other family members. It didn’t occur to me to consider this until I came to this site, but my taste is fairly consistent so I guess it didn’t matter too much.
ashthedreamerParticipant1 month, 2 weeks ago
* meaning – erm, well, it’s an added bonus, unless the meaning is really, really bad. For example, I would never use Hayden, because it means “heathen” and that bothers me. But I would love Isabelle even if it didn’t mean “my God is a vow”–but because it does mean that, it makes me love Isabelle even more. Rachel means “ewe”, which isn’t particularly great, and I still love Rachel. So slightly important?
* ethnic/cultural origin – meh. Slightly important? I think it’s cool when I find a name I love that reflects some heritage that’s meaningful to me, but I don’t rule out Zosia, for example, because I’m not Polish.
* initials – meh. Very unimportant. Unless it spells out a word (which is hard to do, since my LN starts with an “R” and most of my combos have the vowel in either the FN or first MN spot (Emmeline Poppy Joy; Isabelle Aurora Grace; etc.), it’s hard to make up words accidentally. I don’t think I’d ever had that problem) or something close to something very negative (like FUK, or ASS, or whatever), I really don’t care. I don’t find the initials to be particularly aesthetically pleasing, especially my top three for girls (IAGR, AEKR, and OWCR!), but I’m not fussed by them. I care about how the combo looks as a whole, and whether or not I love the names, more.
* flow with last name – once I’m married, I think it’ll matter more. But I would easily have a Spencer Roberts when a lot of people would be put off it. Or a Rachel Richards or a Wren Rowan (although that one just sounds bad, haha). But there are a lot of names that sound slightly off with my surname (Linus, Silas, Spencer, Asher, Rachel, etc.), but if I adopted a little baby today, I would easily give him or her one of those names, if it suited best.
* how it “goes with” sibling/parents’ names – parents, I don’t care so much. My mom was named after her mom, and I realized how very much I would have loved for my mom to have continued this tradition and named me Ashley Karen, so I’m not opposed to having an Asher or an Aislinn, at all, really. I don’t know if I would use Ashley itself–mainly because it’s unisex–but I don’t mind it as a middle. Siblings names, though–it matters more. I don’t even think the names I think go together go together as well as some people would say, but it is important for me to like the names together, for me to imagine Arianne being Isabelle’s little sister, for example, or Linus being Eleanor’s and Sebastian’s big brother. But ultimately, it matters more that I REALLY love the name, than the way the names go together. For some reason, I REALLY love Arianne, and I REALLY love Everett, but I REALLY hate them together. I don’t think they look appealing at all–next to each other, anyway. I’m not opposed to having Isabelle, Arianne, Caleb, Olivia, and Everett, for example, but if I had Isabelle, Caleb, and then Arianne, I would probably give serious thought to whether I wanted to use Everett or not. In the end, it’d probably win out because I love it so much (besides, Arianne and Everett wouldn’t always be right next to each other), but… well, my OCD is strange. And annoying.
* uniqueness – Is overrated. I don’t care at all. If I love the name, I’ll use it. If I know someone else with the name, it might hinder me, just because its specialness is compromised–I couldn’t care less where it stands on some national list, though.
* ease of spelling/pronunciation – it matters more than I’d like it to. I’d love to use Eilidh or Zosia up front, but I think it’s just too much headache. And while I’d LOVE to have a little Agnes with the French pronunciation (ahn-YESS), I wouldn’t do it unless I moved to France, because that’d just be a headache here.
Whoa, long-winded. haha. But there it is.
yellowwattsParticipant1 month, 2 weeks ago
* meaning–not very important.
* ethnic/cultural origin–not very important but something that is a traditional American name.
* initials–pretty important
* flow with last name–very important
* how it “goes with” sibling/parents’ names–very important
* uniqueness–not very important
* ease of spelling/pronunciation–pretty important
lcd1912Participant3 days ago
Meaning: unimportant. It would have to be a Really bad meaning for it to be the deal breaker
Ethnicity : very important. My kids will automatically have an Italian ln but are half Irish too and I want a name that reflects that.
Initials : unimportant. Like meaning , they’d have to be really bad to be a deal breaker. So far I haven’t had any issues with my combos and the Initials they create.
Flow & how it goes with others: are both the most important to me. Also the Current issue I am having.
Uniqueness : not important. If I love a name I don’t care if it is ranked in the top 10 or #300 (but somewhere in between would be good) lol
Ease of spelling /pronunciation : unimportant. Must Irish names are difficult to spell or pronounce but I’ve realized people learn quickly. Names like liam, declan, siobhan, Deirdre, Kiera… Are all names that got butchered 20 years ago but are now common knowledge and even popular!
CarolineParticipant17 hours, 16 minutes ago
* meaning-slightly important
* ethnic/cultural origin-unimportant
* initials-very important
* flow with last name-very important
* how it “goes with” sibling/parents’ names-slightly important
* ease of spelling/pronunciation-slightly important
jenni_lynn91Participant15 hours, 40 minutes ago
Meaning: slightly important-I wouldn’t choose a name just for the meaning, but if the meaning was bad, I wouldn’t use the name.
Ethnic/Cultural origin: unimportant
Initials: very important-I took all the “A” names off the list for a girl because we already had the middle name picked out, and her initials would have spelled “AXE”
Flow with last name: slightly important
How it “goes with” sibling/parents’ names: slightly important
Uniqueness: very important-Growing up and even now I have to deal with so many people that have my name. My last name is one of the 10 most common last names, and then my first and middle name are Jennifer Lynn. At my college, there was another woman with my same exact name and I’ve had so many problems because of it. I want my children to have a name that no one else in their class will have.
Ease of spelling/pronunciation: slightly important-This one is hard for me because my boyfriend’s family is Mexican, so we needed to find names that both of our families could pronounce. No one on my side of the family will be able to pronounce the middle name we have for a girl, but that’s why its the middle name and not the first name.
TheWishingStarParticipant10 hours, 43 minutes ago
* meaning – Not very important. I see it as an added bonus, but plenty of common names have weird meanings, and plenty of people go about their life fine not knowing or caring what their name means.
* ethnic/cultural origin – Slightly important. I wouldn’t use a name that has very strong meanings in another culture, or that would seem really out of place. But I also wouldn’t rule out a name just because it’s foreign.
* initials – Slightly important. So long as, like you said, it doesn’t spell something weird.
* flow with last name – Very important. This is how people hear the name, how it’s said out loud, how teachers and employers will read it.
* how it “goes with” sibling/parents’ names – Slightly important. I wouldn’t want names that clash with family members, or that sound too similar. And I’m not a fan of using really classic names for one child and crazy unique ones for another. But mostly, I just say them out loud and see if they sound okay.
* uniqueness – Somewhat important. I have a pretty common name. There was always a couple of other Kelseys in my grade in school. It’s a pain. But I’d rather a name that people know and don’t find weird than a super unique one that no one else has.
* ease of spelling/pronunciation – Very important. I almost always favor the more logical spelling, spelt the way it sounds and pronounced the way it looks, unless there’s a more common version. No point in making a name longer with extra letter just for looks.