When you're choosing a name … (poll)
TwoSapphiresParticipant10 months, 1 week ago
how important do you consider the following? Unimportant, slightly important, or very important?
* ethnic/cultural origin
* flow with last name
* how it “goes with” sibling/parents’ names
* ease of spelling/pronunciation
TwoSapphiresParticipant10 months, 1 week ago
* meaning: very important
* ethnic/cultural origin: unimportant
* initials: very important. I used to work someplace where the practitioners’ initials were put on the schedule, their bills, their files, etc., and I personally would have hated to have “PIG” or “STD” or something on all my stuff in a professional setting.
* flow with last name: very important
* how it “goes with” sibling/parents’ names: slightly important
* uniqueness: slightly important. I would prefer uncommon names but had to overlook that to find anything DH and I could agree on.
* ease of spelling/pronunciation: very important. People have trouble with both with our LN so I think it’s nice if the FN is more straightforward.
embraParticipant10 months, 1 week ago
1. Flows with last name. I’d put ethnic origin here too because I’d only care about the ethnic origin if it resulted in a name that clashed with the last name. Otherwise I have no preference for ethnic origin.
2. Teasing potential for both the name itself and initials was a big exclusion factor for me.
3. Ease of pronounciation/spelling
4. Uniqueness. I prefer less common names that don’t sound made up.
5. Meaning – bonus points for a good meaning or personal connection and I might exclude a name that had an awful meaning but if the meaning was just ok, I wouldn’t care.
6. How well it goes with other family members. It didn’t occur to me to consider this until I came to this site, but my taste is fairly consistent so I guess it didn’t matter too much.
ashthedreamerParticipant10 months, 1 week ago
* meaning – erm, well, it’s an added bonus, unless the meaning is really, really bad. For example, I would never use Hayden, because it means “heathen” and that bothers me. But I would love Isabelle even if it didn’t mean “my God is a vow”–but because it does mean that, it makes me love Isabelle even more. Rachel means “ewe”, which isn’t particularly great, and I still love Rachel. So slightly important?
* ethnic/cultural origin – meh. Slightly important? I think it’s cool when I find a name I love that reflects some heritage that’s meaningful to me, but I don’t rule out Zosia, for example, because I’m not Polish.
* initials – meh. Very unimportant. Unless it spells out a word (which is hard to do, since my LN starts with an “R” and most of my combos have the vowel in either the FN or first MN spot (Emmeline Poppy Joy; Isabelle Aurora Grace; etc.), it’s hard to make up words accidentally. I don’t think I’d ever had that problem) or something close to something very negative (like FUK, or ASS, or whatever), I really don’t care. I don’t find the initials to be particularly aesthetically pleasing, especially my top three for girls (IAGR, AEKR, and OWCR!), but I’m not fussed by them. I care about how the combo looks as a whole, and whether or not I love the names, more.
* flow with last name – once I’m married, I think it’ll matter more. But I would easily have a Spencer Roberts when a lot of people would be put off it. Or a Rachel Richards or a Wren Rowan (although that one just sounds bad, haha). But there are a lot of names that sound slightly off with my surname (Linus, Silas, Spencer, Asher, Rachel, etc.), but if I adopted a little baby today, I would easily give him or her one of those names, if it suited best.
* how it “goes with” sibling/parents’ names – parents, I don’t care so much. My mom was named after her mom, and I realized how very much I would have loved for my mom to have continued this tradition and named me Ashley Karen, so I’m not opposed to having an Asher or an Aislinn, at all, really. I don’t know if I would use Ashley itself–mainly because it’s unisex–but I don’t mind it as a middle. Siblings names, though–it matters more. I don’t even think the names I think go together go together as well as some people would say, but it is important for me to like the names together, for me to imagine Arianne being Isabelle’s little sister, for example, or Linus being Eleanor’s and Sebastian’s big brother. But ultimately, it matters more that I REALLY love the name, than the way the names go together. For some reason, I REALLY love Arianne, and I REALLY love Everett, but I REALLY hate them together. I don’t think they look appealing at all–next to each other, anyway. I’m not opposed to having Isabelle, Arianne, Caleb, Olivia, and Everett, for example, but if I had Isabelle, Caleb, and then Arianne, I would probably give serious thought to whether I wanted to use Everett or not. In the end, it’d probably win out because I love it so much (besides, Arianne and Everett wouldn’t always be right next to each other), but… well, my OCD is strange. And annoying.
* uniqueness – Is overrated. I don’t care at all. If I love the name, I’ll use it. If I know someone else with the name, it might hinder me, just because its specialness is compromised–I couldn’t care less where it stands on some national list, though.
* ease of spelling/pronunciation – it matters more than I’d like it to. I’d love to use Eilidh or Zosia up front, but I think it’s just too much headache. And while I’d LOVE to have a little Agnes with the French pronunciation (ahn-YESS), I wouldn’t do it unless I moved to France, because that’d just be a headache here.
Whoa, long-winded. haha. But there it is.
yellowwattsParticipant10 months, 1 week ago
* meaning–not very important.
* ethnic/cultural origin–not very important but something that is a traditional American name.
* initials–pretty important
* flow with last name–very important
* how it “goes with” sibling/parents’ names–very important
* uniqueness–not very important
* ease of spelling/pronunciation–pretty important
lcd1912Participant8 months, 3 weeks ago
Meaning: unimportant. It would have to be a Really bad meaning for it to be the deal breaker
Ethnicity : very important. My kids will automatically have an Italian ln but are half Irish too and I want a name that reflects that.
Initials : unimportant. Like meaning , they’d have to be really bad to be a deal breaker. So far I haven’t had any issues with my combos and the Initials they create.
Flow & how it goes with others: are both the most important to me. Also the Current issue I am having.
Uniqueness : not important. If I love a name I don’t care if it is ranked in the top 10 or #300 (but somewhere in between would be good) lol
Ease of spelling /pronunciation : unimportant. Must Irish names are difficult to spell or pronounce but I’ve realized people learn quickly. Names like liam, declan, siobhan, Deirdre, Kiera… Are all names that got butchered 20 years ago but are now common knowledge and even popular!
CarolineParticipant8 months, 2 weeks ago
* meaning-slightly important
* ethnic/cultural origin-unimportant
* initials-very important
* flow with last name-very important
* how it “goes with” sibling/parents’ names-slightly important
* ease of spelling/pronunciation-slightly important
jenni_lynn91Participant8 months, 2 weeks ago
Meaning: slightly important-I wouldn’t choose a name just for the meaning, but if the meaning was bad, I wouldn’t use the name.
Ethnic/Cultural origin: unimportant
Initials: very important-I took all the “A” names off the list for a girl because we already had the middle name picked out, and her initials would have spelled “AXE”
Flow with last name: slightly important
How it “goes with” sibling/parents’ names: slightly important
Uniqueness: very important-Growing up and even now I have to deal with so many people that have my name. My last name is one of the 10 most common last names, and then my first and middle name are Jennifer Lynn. At my college, there was another woman with my same exact name and I’ve had so many problems because of it. I want my children to have a name that no one else in their class will have.
Ease of spelling/pronunciation: slightly important-This one is hard for me because my boyfriend’s family is Mexican, so we needed to find names that both of our families could pronounce. No one on my side of the family will be able to pronounce the middle name we have for a girl, but that’s why its the middle name and not the first name.
TheWishingStarParticipant8 months, 2 weeks ago
* meaning – Not very important. I see it as an added bonus, but plenty of common names have weird meanings, and plenty of people go about their life fine not knowing or caring what their name means.
* ethnic/cultural origin – Slightly important. I wouldn’t use a name that has very strong meanings in another culture, or that would seem really out of place. But I also wouldn’t rule out a name just because it’s foreign.
* initials – Slightly important. So long as, like you said, it doesn’t spell something weird.
* flow with last name – Very important. This is how people hear the name, how it’s said out loud, how teachers and employers will read it.
* how it “goes with” sibling/parents’ names – Slightly important. I wouldn’t want names that clash with family members, or that sound too similar. And I’m not a fan of using really classic names for one child and crazy unique ones for another. But mostly, I just say them out loud and see if they sound okay.
* uniqueness – Somewhat important. I have a pretty common name. There was always a couple of other Kelseys in my grade in school. It’s a pain. But I’d rather a name that people know and don’t find weird than a super unique one that no one else has.
* ease of spelling/pronunciation – Very important. I almost always favor the more logical spelling, spelt the way it sounds and pronounced the way it looks, unless there’s a more common version. No point in making a name longer with extra letter just for looks.
NMteacherParticipant8 months, 2 weeks ago
how important do you consider the following? Unimportant, slightly important, or very important?
* meaning – One of the most important. With the current combination of names we have for our little boy, the meaning of the first and middle names go together “Luke Josiah – the Lord is my light and my salvation.” The name I had picked out for a daughter is the same way.
* ethnic/cultural origin – we lean heavily towards Bible/Hebrew names.
* initials – it would only matter if it spelled out something bad.
* flow with last name – very important. I wouldn’t want to saddle someone with an awkward-sounding name, especially a boy who will keep it for life.
* how it “goes with” sibling/parents’ names – not really important
* uniqueness – not really important
* ease of spelling/pronunciation – sort of, although my girl’s name, Moriah, is spelled differently from the common name Mariah, because it is actually a different name. So…sorry, future daughter.
TwoSapphiresParticipant8 months, 2 weeks ago
NMteacher, great name and meaning combination! I love that.
MyosotisParticipant7 months, 3 weeks ago
*Meaning- Very important No-one wants a name that may offend/ being funny or weird in another language or culture.
*Ethnic/ cultural origin- I love Ancient Greek and some Latin names, but I don’t really mind its origins if it’s a nice name.
*Intials- As long as it’s not particularly bad. I love that mine spell out JAM though.
*Flow with last name- Very important, I hate it when names don’t fit properly, they just sound a bit wrong and stilted.
*Hoe it ‘goes with’ parent/ sibling names- Not important, maybe important for twins or triplets.
*Uniqueness- Extremely important, I like being different
*Ease of spelling/ pronunciation- Not important, in fact I kind of like difficult spellings/ pronunciations (to a point) esp. when they look easy, but there’s actually more to it. I just want to screw with my future kids’ teachers’ heads to be honest.
kimihaParticipant7 months, 2 weeks ago
* meaning- slightly important. i think meanings arent important because no one knows them. however, a good meaning makes a name more appealing and i wouldnt give my child a name with a really bad meaning.
* ethnic/cultural origin- slightly important. its unimportant with in reason. in english speaking u.s. it is common for anyone to have names from origins such as hebrew and italian. it would be weird though, if a blond blue eyed child was named xiao li.
* initials- very important. its ok if they spell words like MAP or PEN. but you should not make someones initials STD, ASS, PMS, HPV, FAT, FAG or something bad like those.
* flow with last name- very important. the full name has to go well together. something like dina dana would sound silly.
* how it “goes with” sibling/parents’ names- i think sibling names should be the same style. like two classics such as sarah and michael or two modern such as kylie and jett. it would be weird to have a sibset like joseph and harper
* uniqueness- slightly important- if a name is super common it could be boring. if a name is too unique, it could be weird.
* ease of spelling/pronunciation- very important. do not torture your child with a difficult name!
TwoSapphiresParticipant7 months, 2 weeks ago
Thanks for the responses; these were really interesting to read through!
JVitiParticipant7 months, 2 weeks ago
* meaning * Not important. I see it as a bonus if it means something cool and cute. I may slight away from a name if it meant slut or something, but otherwise it doesnt really matter to me.
* ethnic/cultural origin * Not really important either. I feel this is only important to people who are very cultural. I am not. I am irish and italian.
* initials * VERY IMPORTANT. People use their initials for everything. You need to sign your initials on documents, and if you have, ummm, bad initials, it could be embarrassing. For instance, my last name starts with V. So I need to be careful that my child doesnt have initials of certain viruses such as HIV or HPV or HBV. It would be bad to have the initials ASS or HEL or DAM. GAY or FAG. It could cause a LOT of teasing.
* flow with last name * Important. People are known by first and last name and if it doesnt flow well, it wont be fun to say.
* how it “goes with” sibling/parents’ names * Somewhat important. Moreso with siblings names then parents names. It will signed on cards, and if you cant have a good flow when talking about your kids, it may just sound weird.
* uniqueness * A little bit of both. I would like a unique name so that she doesnt have to share it. My name is Jenn, and I was NEVER the only one. I was known as Jenn H until I got married, now I’m known as Jenn V, or called by my last name. I wish my name was unique sometimes. But I wouldnt a name that is so unique that people have to ask you to repeat the name or that the name is so uncommon that you cant find it on a keychain.
* ease of spelling/pronunciation * Important. Nothing is more annoying than having to repeat the spelling or pronounciation.