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  • gaamy
    gaamy
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    one of Gigi’s friends was over this morning making christmas ornaments and asked if Axl, our papillon was a boy or a girl and Gigi said he’s a boy, like Junior (the chihuahua) and Gigi told her they were married. the friend then told Gigi that’s boys cant get married. just out of habbit i answered “Yes they can.” this little girl then screwed her face up and said “That’s gross!” just out of a knee jerk reaction i replied “no it’s not.” and she said “well to me it is.”

    Gigi was quite upset by this. My best friend, who she knows as her aunt, is lesbian and she knows her cousins uncle, now deceased was, gay too. i dont want to say we’ve “raised” her to think homosexuality was ok b/c we’ve always just treated it exactly the same as heterosexuality except to tell her and that people who think it’s wrong are the ones with the problem. Gigi is really upset. i took her aside and reinforced our ideas that we know it’s ok and told her she shouldnt argue with her friend about it but she is just REALLY bothered, esp that i didnt correct the friend. “But mommy,” she said “It was SO mean! we dont say mean things in this house, saying mean things isnt cool! you have to tell her!”

    on the one hand i agree with Gigi but on the other hand this little girl (or more likely some adult in her life) is entitled to thier opinions. how do you explain to a 7 yo that sometimes assholes are allowed to be assholes?

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  • Momkey
    Momkey
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    I would just make sure she understands that everyone is raised differently! And that the other girls family seems to have issues with it, where as your family don’t! And you can’t force your beliefs on them as they can’t force their beliefs on her/you!

    jasonlovessara
    jasonlovessara
    Participant

    That is sad…. I agree with everything that momkey had to say

    lilybell
    lilybell
    Participant

    I agree with momkey also.

    ducklings
    ducklings
    Participant

    We’ve had to have this conversation as well. One of mad’s friends argued with her and told her that two boys can’t get married. Our kids were raised the same- that gay marriage is the same as straight marriage- and she argued that two boys CAN get married. When she came home and told is we just reinforced with her that she is right and it is normal and fine. We’ve discussed with her multiple times about discrimination and the prejudice that gays (and other groups) face and why some kids might think it’s wrong. I don’t think 7 is too young to have that conversation; explain to her that the girls parents have likely raised her to think this way and she probably doesn’t even know why she thinks it’s gross. While I agree about beliefs not being forced, I think with some things, like equal rights, it’s important to take the stance that there IS an objective right and wrong.

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