one of Gigi’s friends was over this morning making christmas ornaments and asked if Axl, our papillon was a boy or a girl and Gigi said he’s a boy, like Junior (the chihuahua) and Gigi told her they were married. the friend then told Gigi that’s boys cant get married. just out of habbit i answered “Yes they can.” this little girl then screwed her face up and said “That’s gross!” just out of a knee jerk reaction i replied “no it’s not.” and she said “well to me it is.”
Gigi was quite upset by this. My best friend, who she knows as her aunt, is lesbian and she knows her cousins uncle, now deceased was, gay too. i dont want to say we’ve “raised” her to think homosexuality was ok b/c we’ve always just treated it exactly the same as heterosexuality except to tell her and that people who think it’s wrong are the ones with the problem. Gigi is really upset. i took her aside and reinforced our ideas that we know it’s ok and told her she shouldnt argue with her friend about it but she is just REALLY bothered, esp that i didnt correct the friend. “But mommy,” she said “It was SO mean! we dont say mean things in this house, saying mean things isnt cool! you have to tell her!”
on the one hand i agree with Gigi but on the other hand this little girl (or more likely some adult in her life) is entitled to thier opinions. how do you explain to a 7 yo that sometimes assholes are allowed to be assholes?