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So torn! (Dashiell and Mark)


  • psychprof
    Participant

    So my DH and I have narrowed it down to two names: Dashiell (my DH’s favorite – he loves the nn Dash), and Mark (my favorite – named after my father). We’re pretty sure this baby will be either Mark Dashiell or Dashiell Mark. My DH is fine with having Mark as the first name, but then he still wants to call the baby Dash. I’ve never really liked the idea of going by a middle name, so if we’re going to call him Dash, then I would rather that be his first name. However, while I do really like the name, I’m having trouble “biting the bullet” on an unusual first name. Part of me really wants to have a more traditional name as the first name. I’m so torn! I don’t know if I’m brave enough to give him the first name Dashiell (even though I do like it).

    Any help or advice would be SO appreciated!!

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  • psychprof
    Participant

    By the way, maybe this is common knowledge (not sure), but Dashiell is pronounced DASH-uhl

    (I think if I’m being honest with myself, that’s part of why I’m hesitating to choose it as a first name. The spelling is odd, and I have a feeling it will be mispronounced a lot. I like the *sound* of DASH-uhl, but I’m not really in love with the spelling. But I don’t want to make up a spelling either, like Dashel or Daschel.)


    KBing
    Participant

    I love the name Dashiell! How many syllables does your last name have? Only one and I would use Mark Dashiell. Anymore than that, you could use either one. As far as going by middle names, one of my sisters, my husband, and my daughter all go by their middle names and it has never been a that big of a deal. As for nick names, as I said, my daughter goes by her middle name, Lily. Our close family and friends have always called her Lilybug. Now, I just call her Bug. So nicknames can be personal or widely used, depending on how he’s introduced. If you’re really torn about the pronunciation of his name, maybe you could just change it to Dash altogether?


    psychprof
    Participant

    Thanks for the advice. I’m glad to hear that it hasn’t been a big deal for your family members to go by their middle names. Have you always known that you wanted your daughter to go by Lily, or did she decide that later? I’m just wondering if I need to make an announcement to the family right away when he’s born that “This is what we’re calling him.”

    By the way, my last name has two syllabus and starts with a W.


    embra
    Participant

    I like Dashiell Mark better. I like Dashiell in full much better than Dash though. I think Dashiell is becoming popular often enough that most people will know how to pronounce it, although maybe that is just where I am. I know 3.


    psychprof
    Participant

    Wow, you know 3?! May I ask what part of the country you’re in? I guess it is getting more popular. I just read the other day that the name has never been above the top 1,000 names in the US! I suppose it may climb, but I imagine it will be far from a Top 10 or even Top 100 name for a while. Embra, do all 3 pronounce the name like DASH-ul? Also, what ages are the 3, if you don’t mind me asking?
    Thanks!


    KBing
    Participant

    She has always gone by Lily. We had it picked out first and then found another name we liked. I just liked the “flow” of Autumn Lily as opposed to Lily Autumn. Whatever name you decide to go with, just start referring to him as that now. If you want everyone to call him Dash, then call him Dash (“Dash has been a little ninja today.” “We are painting Dash’s room today.”) Everyone will catch on regardless of what his full name is. We were struggling finding a name for this baby so I was calling her noodle (my little noddle)…everyone else has picked up on it even though we have finally decided on an actual name. Even when he starts school, the papers always ask if there is a nick name and believe me, he won’t have a problem correcting anyone. Little people are often very outspoken!


    embra
    Participant

    All three pronounce it DASH-ul. One is an adult, one is 4, and one is 6 or 7. The last is actually the son of a friend who lives across the country. I don’t get the impression that it is a super popular name by any stretch, but I don’t think people will look at it and think, huh?


    kimiha
    Participant

    dashiell mark would be an awesome handsome combo.

    mark seems dated and boring as a first name. dashiell sounds fun and cool.
    im not a huge fan of it because it looks like da-she-ELL. but i heard it on youtube from anastasiaruby. shes naming her baby dashiell and pronounces it DASH-ull. its cool and could grow on me. dont be afraid to be different. diversity is good!

    TheWishingStar
    TheWishingStar
    Participant

    I like te flow of Dashiell Mark better, but I am really not a fan of Dash or Dashiell. Dash sounds like such a stereotypical dumb and mean high school football player name to me. Sorry :/ or like that kid from The Incredibles, and his name was meant as a joke, because he runs fast… I don’t know, I’ve just really never liked it much.
    And Dashiell, while I’ve only heard it pronounce dash-ul, really does look like it should be dash-ee-ul, along the lines of Gabriel or Ariel… I don’t think it would be too big of a problem, but I think there will inevitably be people who pronounce it wrong.
    Mark is such a nice classic name, but Mark Dashiell sounds a little forced. I think the flow would ultimately depend on the last name, though.

    TwoSapphires
    TwoSapphires
    Participant

    A part of me likes Dash/Dashiell but it does have a very comic-bookish sound to me; it is hard to take it seriously. I would go with Mark Dashiell.

    lcd1912
    lcd1912
    Participant

    I like the classic, handsome Mark. I like Marc even better. None of me likes Dashiell… Sorry. It looks kind of feminine, sounds nothing like how it’s pronounced and too fantasy-like for me:/ Dash is cool though and I’d prefer just Dash honesty. Obviously Dash Mark or Mark Dash is too abrupt sounding so how about Marcus Dash or Dash Marcus?


    psychprof
    Participant

    Thank you, everyone, for sharing your opinions and insights! I really appreciate it!

    My husband and I have thought about it a lot, and we’re thinking of using Dashiell for a first name, but changing the spelling. I am not usually a fan of spelling variations, but this name is so rarely heard anyway, that we’re thinking it won’t matter.

    What does everyone think of Dashel (or Daschel)?


    embra
    Participant

    If you are going to change the spelling, I’d go with Dashel or Dashell. If you go with Daschel, you might get Da-chell or Da-skell (like school).

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