Offending a family member?
So DH is worried about offending someone if we use the mn spot to honor a family member. I can appreciate his concern because I like my one grandmother’s name, (Josephine) but not the other’s (Dorothy). I also wouldn’t dream of honoring his mom (Jane) before mine (Mairead). I’ve always planned out my combos with the mn holding a special meaning-that’s just how my family has always done it. I find it strange/boring that my husband’s first and middle names have no meaning other than his parents liked & agreed on them. Ideally we would have a name that holds significance on both sides of the family or maybe a combination of two names?
Has anyone dealt with this dilemma & the reactions from family? Any suggestions using the below names would be greatly appreciated!
Middle name options to honor female family members (most likely to go with Violet or Maeve):
Mairead (for my mom, best friend & God daughter who are all Margaret)
Marie (my middle name, named after my aunt)
Jane (for his mom, Janet)
Mary (for his grandma, also my mom’s mn)
Josephine (for my grandma. Seems to be one of the only one that Maeve fits well with ?)
Dorothy (for my other grandma. Love my grandma, not her name)
Linda (for his grandma & aunt. Would need to refresh this one too)
Kiera (my sister)
Brooke (his sister)
The Boy choices (most likely to go with Donovan or Ronan):
John (his dad and my grandpa. This is our favorite because it covers both sides, but it also kind of rhymes with our current top choices)
William (my dad & brother)
Kevin (my uncle/Godfather. Would love to use this but don’t think it sounds good with our current fn choices)
Forde (my mom’s maiden name. An easy way to honor her, my uncle, my grandma…that whole side!)
Chad (my husband’s fn. He hasn’t expressed any interest in using his own name, but I like it better than his mn…)
Austin (my husband’s mn. I don’t know why, but it’s just one of those names that I have never, ever, liked. He isn’t pushing for it anyway. Maybe another Au- name?)
August (his grandfather that recently passed)
Frank (his other grandfather that I never got to meet)
Thomas (my grandfather, although I was much closer to my other, John)