Need opinions from people looking in from the outside
I am a self-employed nanny. I work for 4 different families.
3 of the 4 are only children and both parents work so I watch the kids when they overlap.
The fourth family is 4 kids and the mom is a SAHM and her husband works out of town a lot. One of the 4 is in kindergarten and then one in preschool and the twins are 18 months. So I watch the younger kids when she has appointments or errands to run and she has to take her second son to preschool.
Today she tells me she needs me every week Tuesdays and Fridays. I told her the one day in January that I couldn’t and then informed her that I would let her know for the upcoming months at least a week and a half before the beginning of the month when I get the rest of the families schedules.
She then asked if I was working for anyone else. I said yes I was working for two of the other three when I started working for her. She then got upset and asked where their family was when in my priorities. I tried to explain it’s not a first second third fourth priority if they overlap I have a lot of things to take into consideration.
She then says that I should have informed her that I added a fourth family, I added the fourth family this summer when I hadn’t heard from her in almost two months.
So am I wrong for having 4 families. 99% of the time it’s not a problem all the other families understand that I can’t support myself only working for one family. If the others overlap I’m able most of the time to take the kids to each others homes. This family lives in a different city almost an hour drive away.
This mother also doesn’t “go” to work she can take the twins with to take her son to preschool. I realize it’s inconvenient but it can happen. The other parents need me so they can go to work.
So am I wrong? What would you have said to her?
What would your reaction be if you had a nanny that also worked for other families?
I just need people’s opinions that aren’t my family.
My mom and fiance think that there’s something else that’s bothering her and I need to just let it go that I’m not doing anything wrong.
I am the kind of person that feels bad about everything even if I have nothing to do with the problem and so I’m having a really hard time not feeling horrible about this.