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Jack has two cavities and I need advice please!

  • jasonlovessara
    jasonlovessara
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    Jack is petrified of shots – I mean he looses sleep over it. He was at the dentist the other day and he has two cavities. The hygienist told me how they use nitrous and I was super excited thinking that he would not need shots – I don’t know why I thought that. I double checked today and yes he will be getting shots.
    The little girl I watch had this same scenario a couple of months ago and she flipped out mid procedure and her mom had to lie on the chair and hold her while they finished (they had already started so they needed to finish). So I am even more nervous now.
    When Jack asked about shots I told him about wearing an elephant mask (the nitrous) but that he would not need shots.
    What do I do now? If I tell him there will be shots he will freak out and become preoccupied by that but I also feel like if I don’t tell him and he sees it during the fillings that he will scream and not trust me.
    I am so freaking anxious about this now. His appointment is May 12.
    And advice is greatly appreciated.

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  • Magster
    Magster
    Keymaster

    Aw, dealing with fear at the dentist is the absolute worst! We have been there!

    My advice is to not focus on the shots. They’ll start the nitrous first, and then, if they’re like Morgan’s dentist, they are very stealthy about hiding the shot until the last second. I am amazed at how well her dentist keeps it hidden and then sneaks it right in and it’s over before Morgan can even realize it happened! So I would just mention the terror to the dentist and ask that he or she not mention it, which they probably won’t anyway. If he gets mad at you for lying to him later, play dumb! lol That’s what I would do, anyway, because if you tell him it’s just going to add to his anxiety and it may not even be a big deal in reality.

    Morgan had to have a tooth pulled and a couple of crowns (face meets wall, teeth break, nightmare ensues) at one of her very first ever dentist visits. The fear was horrible. The best thing I did for her was to make an excuse to leave the room, and to stay out for a little bit. It’s counter-intuitive for a mom, but the dentist was suggesting it and I knew from my phlebotomy experience how much easier things can go without a parent in the room at times.

    So just try really hard not to let him pick up on your anxiety, and play it by ear. It may go like a dream, you never know! Good luck!!

    • This reply was modified 4 months, 2 weeks ago by Magster Magster.
    gaamy
    gaamy
    Participant

    this might sound batty, but have they considered NOT giving him shots at all? i hate needles to the point that i have had 3 cavities filled w/out novacaine and it didnt hurt at all. of course this isnt an option in all cases, the position and severity of the cavity needs to be considered. when i moved my dentist told me that if i wanted a filling with no shot i’d have to ask since it’s a pretty uncommon thing. most people are so affriad that it will hurt they’d never dream of doing it w/out anestetic so dentists just dont suggest it.

    if its something that’s going to hurt, like having a tooth pulled they give me diazapam to take the morning to the proceedure for anxiety. i dont think this is an option for kids.

    magster has some really good suggestions too. if a shot is needed talk to the dentist abouot delivering it in stealth mode and try to distract jack. if you’re lucky they might get it in and out before he notices.

    jasonlovessara
    jasonlovessara
    Participant

    They typically do not allow the parent back with the kids – I think for reasons similar to what Magster mentioned.
    I was thinking of putting some kid music on my ipod and giving him headphones. Do you think that will help?

    lilybell
    lilybell
    Participant

    I was going to suggest the music thing. also consider going with gaamy’s thing and not do novacane. I don’t get novacane because I don’t like shots and it doesn’t numb me. I’ve had multiple cavities and teeth pulled (so others could move in) without it. I’ve had laughing gas a few times and it makes it easier.

    I would let him know that they can do it without the needles it just may be a little more painful, if he wants it to hurt less they can do a shot to make it feel better and if he gets the elephant mask he most likely won’t be able to feel the needle (unless its right in the upper front teeth, then it just feels like something is going up your nose).

    If you choose to let him have novacane and NOT tell him hes getting it I would suggest giving him head phones and a sleep mask which would be nice to have just because that bright light is right in your face. then he won’t know the difference between the needle and everything else. If this is the way you wanna go make sure you call ahead and let the dentist and all the helpers that he doesn’t like needles and that you aren’t going to lie to him just omit what he doesn’t know won’t hurt him.

    Magster
    Magster
    Keymaster

    If you think the music will help him, absolutely! Do they have tvs there for the patients to watch? They do at ours, but Morgan is usually too freaked out to pay attention to it.

    jasonlovessara
    jasonlovessara
    Participant

    They don’t have TVs … didn’t they have the sunglasses that you could actually watch TV on in one of those futuristic movies? I want them so if someone could invent them in the next month I would appreciate it ;)

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