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How mom's time is different from dad's time

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  • Momkey
    Momkey
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    That is interesting, but I would rather put my daughter to bed then wash the dishes! :) But then again, I am 44 years old with a 5 year old! I had my ME time already, I feel content spending as much of my time with my daughter! My sister gets mad at me because I don’t really care to do the things I can’t bring my daughter along for!

    TwoSapphires
    TwoSapphires
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    LOL Momkey I thought the same thing! We clean up the kitchen before bedtime, so it’s not either-or and ideally I’d rather do both jobs together. But that was one thing I don’t relate to; it actually means a lot to me when DH does or at least helps with the dishes. When I do all the cooking *and* all the cleanup I tend to feel a little resentful. But then, I was solely responsible for kitchen cleanup for about half my childhood in my family of 6 so I still really hate it when I’m stuck doing dishes all by myself for a family meal while everyone else is off playing or relaxing.

    jasonlovessara
    jasonlovessara
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    This had me at the mom’s confession. I would much much rather do the dishes and clean up after dinner and have my H do baths and what not! It is some “me” time – I turn on some Pandora and dance the dishes away :)

    Momkey
    Momkey
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    LOL! Gotta try the dancing the dishes away! Although, my husband probably won’t like that idea! May end up with some broken dishes! :)

    jasonlovessara
    jasonlovessara
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    I am not that good of a dancer but thankfully we don’t have too many breakable dishes – we use a lot of plastic ;)

    gaamy
    gaamy
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    i tend to think people have exactly the life they want to have. if they want to be stressed out and miserable, they will be. if they dont they will find a way to make things better. sure everyone needs to do some complaining and get things off thier chest every once in a while, but there is no need to live in that constantly frazzled state.

    also i am completely baffled at the thought of one parent putting the child to bed over the other. is this not something parents do together? it seems absolutely foriegn to me for one parent to be doing something else while the kids are being put to bed.

    Momkey
    Momkey
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    My parents never put us to bed! We were told to go to bed, and you went to bed if you did not want to get in trouble! My husband was raised that the woman does all the real child rearing! So mom does everything that needs to be done for the child! Although, my husband steps up when I can’t do it because I have a parent meeting at school, I have to put my daughter to bed, do the dishes, etc……. That’s the way HE was raised!

    Momkey
    Momkey
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    Well, once we were old enough to put ourselves to bed! That is! I have 4 older siblings that did that for me and my younger siblings!

    TwoSapphires
    TwoSapphires
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    Momkey, yeah, once we were old enough to put ourselves to bed, we did too. I think this is talking more about little ones?

    And gaamy, I think to some extent that is true but there are people who truly have more on their plate than they can reasonably handle and they can’t always find a good way out of it. DH and I have almost always put our boys to bed together on the nights we’re both home, but I think it’s not uncommon for one parent to do that while the other does evening clean-up or whatever. (Or, in some cases, lazes about. ;) Or does homework, etc.)

    ducklings
    ducklings
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    Hey- I love my little monsters, but to be clear, I definitely do not feel bad for not wanting to put them to bed every night. Maybe I’ve had a bad day at work, maybe I have homework, maybe I’m just too tired for the bedtime routine- but there are definitely nights when I call “not it” for toothbrush/potty monitoring, bedtime story reading,stuffed animal gathering, and general protests.

    Now- I always come up at the end for goodnight kisses, but sometimes I want to skip the rest and I think that’s okay. I have been getting a lot better at putting housework aside to do things like that, but I can certainly understand wanting a few minutes to just get things put together so you can enjoy your evening. I’ve done that, too!

    TwoSapphires
    TwoSapphires
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    Me, too, ducklings.

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