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Baptism – Question


  • MiVS
    Participant

    Hey everybody :)

    So in my family we are not religious at all. None of us are baptized and we’re quite happy with that :) I have three amazing children with my Italian husband, who said goodbye to Catholicism many years ago. The problem is that his grandmother is very religious! She keeps saying that the children should be baptized, and now my husband is starting to break under pressure.It makes no sense to me, since neither of us are religious, and we certainly don’t want to choose our children’s religion for them. If my children figure out they want to be Christian, Muslim, Buddhist or something else, I will welcome that with open arms. I just don’t want my husband’s grandmother to decide it.
    So I guess my question is this: Can I go veto on this thing or should I please my husband’s family?

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  • gaamy
    gaamy
    Participant

    i’m agnostic. i was raised mormon and when i was 8 i was baptized. being baptized didnt stop me from forming my own religious views when i was old enough to understand such things.

    if this is really important to you, then stick to your guns, but if it were me i would probably go ahead and do it. getting baptized doesnt mean you have to believe or go to church every sunday. if your children’s great grandmother is catholic and this is important to her then she honestly believes that her unbaptized great grand children will burn in hell. personally i would just look at it as setting an old lady’s mind at ease.

    Momkey
    Momkey
    Participant

    I would do it to set the grandmother at ease too! But I am Lutheran, my MIL is Catholic, and I teach Sunday school at my church! My daughter is baptized Lutheran, because out of My husband and me, I am the one who practices my faith, where as, he don’t! If I did not believe, and MIL did, I would have baptized my daughter to set her at ease! I don’t know what kind of school your kids go to, and if you plan to possibly put them through private, or Catholic school! My daughter goes to a Catholic School, and I had to have her baptism certificate when I registered her for Kindergarten! It is understandable, since it is a Catholic School! My point being though, is it leaves doors open for you too! (Now, I don’t know about other private schools rules, because I only have the one who is attending a Catholic school! I absolutely hate the public schools in my area, and the city will not allow charter schools to come into our city either!)


    MiVS
    Participant

    I agree that being baptized doesn’t mean that you have to be super religious. I just find this decision difficult, because it’s not just that I don’t practice my faith, I didn’t grow up with one. In Denmark 78% are members of the Church of Denmark (but almost none are religious), which is a Protestant church. Catholicism is really rare in Denmark (There are more Muslims in Denmark than there are Catholics), so that faith and culture seems especially far away from me. My family would think it was weird, if we baptized our children, since they know neither of us are religious. So basically everybody would know that we’re lying, while saying yes to believing in God. Isn’t that a little much, considering it’s just to please a few people?
    About schools, religious schools are very rare in Denmark, so that isn’t really an issue. Plus, we have some private schools that we always use in my family, and then we have a tradition of going to boarding schools at 11 or so.

    • This reply was modified 2 weeks, 6 days ago by  MiVS.
    gaamy
    gaamy
    Participant

    there are things we do sometimes to set peoples minds at ease. several years ago Gigi developed this very serious fear about death, she would cry and shake and be inconsolable sometimes for hours at a time. it only took a handful of incidents before i decided to lie. instead of telling her “i dont know what happens when we die” i told her “you’ll go to heaven to be with jesus and all the people you love.”

    no one thinks it’s weird or wrong that i told her that even if i’m not sure that’s what happens.


    MiVS
    Participant

    That’s a very good argument :-) If my husband really wants this, I will be willing to consider it. I just think it’s silly that she can’t respect that we’re not religious.

    Magster
    Magster
    Keymaster

    Like you, my husband and I are not religious at all, and our child will be free to choose her own path in that regard. I personally would not give in on this issue. It would be a lie, a farce, and I think it’s more disrespectful to her and her religion to participate in something in which you absolutely don’t believe than to respectfully decline.


    MiVS
    Participant

    Farce is such a good word to describe how I feel about this! I too think it’s kind of disrespectful to the religion, since it would be a lie. On the other hand, his grandmother knows that we’re not religious, so maybe she doesn’t see it as disrespectful, because she’s thinking about the faith of the kids and not so much about the parents.
    But to be honest, I would love to just shoot this thing down. It seems like a lot of trouble for just pleasing a few.

    TwoSapphires
    TwoSapphires
    Participant

    I personally wouldn’t go through a religious ceremony like that if I didn’t agree with it. I could see people going either way but really, go with what makes the most sense to you.

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